{"id":2048,"date":"2010-06-26T20:58:29","date_gmt":"2010-06-27T03:58:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bspcn.com\/?p=2048"},"modified":"2010-06-27T05:11:21","modified_gmt":"2010-06-27T12:11:21","slug":"7-ways-to-kill-your-chances-of-getting-a-date-online","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/localhost\/wordpress\/2010\/06\/26\/7-ways-to-kill-your-chances-of-getting-a-date-online\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Ways To Kill Your Chances Of Getting A Date Online"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by Shawn Norris<\/a><\/p>\n

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Internet dating sites are becoming hugely popular in these bustling times, and places like Yahoo! Personals and Match.com are boasting that 25% of relationships are now started on internet dating sites like themselves. This is great news for some folks, but it got me wondering if there isn\u2019t a reason some of these folks can\u2019t seem to meet people in real-life. Maybe there are some things about a few of these people that are just a little \u201coff\u201d and that\u2019s the reason they have trouble finding the special someone. These are a few things that may make people stop and say, \u201cHey wait minute\u2026\u201d, when they are scanning your profile. A few red flags like these could cost you your chance at eternal happiness.<\/p>\n

7 The screen name or profile has \u201cprincess\u201d in it<\/strong>
\n\"\"Sometimes a screen name is just a screen name; women just fall back on the old standard when devising a pseudonym for their profile. But other times it should serve as a warning that this young lady may be a little high maintenance. \u201cI want a man who will treat me like the princess I am\u2026\u201d Well, that a wonderful thought (and may happen), but a lot of profiles such as this show a woman with unreasonable expectations. Sure, you want to shoot for the stars and be unequivocally happy in your relationship, but having your profile read like you\u2019re looking for a life straight out of a Shakespearean play is a little much. Sure, most women would want daily back rubs on a yacht, someone that looks like Brad Pitt, a person with time and cash to spend every waking hour pampering them with wine and roses, but this is real life. That sounds like a lot of work for someone I\u2019ve never even met before and shows some serious reasons to potential suitors on why you aren\u2019t currently in a relationship. Actually it screams from the mountain tops, \u201cI\u2019m unbelievably high maintenance and nothing you will do will ever be enough!\u201d Most people should just shoot for having someone to laugh, love and share their life with. And hey, maybe you get some of those things you were looking for in the process.<\/p>\n

6 My favorite book is \u201cinsert weird or offensive choice here\u201d<\/strong>
\n\"\"Letting your potential suitor know that your favorite book as a child was Curious George <\/em>or I used to love reading Dr. Seuss when I was little are nice little tidbits of information that he\/she will find cute and endearing when reading your profile. Listing your favorite books says a lot about a person and can end up being a deal breaker because it is something you can talk about and may show the type of ideals or entertainment you and your match share. Listing things like Mein Kampf <\/em>by Adolf Hitler, or Aleister Crowley\u2019s The Book of Law <\/em>are going to send out some serious weird signals (especially because there is no room on the form to explain your choice). I\u2019m guessing a good portion of men and women on dating sites don\u2019t want their first-date dinner conversation to be about the dark arts or genocide.<\/p>\n

5 Listing that you drink \u201cdaily\u201d or do drugs \u201cdaily\u201d<\/strong>
\n\"\"No judgment here on my part, I\u2019m simply stating that listing that you drink like Dudley Moore in Arthur <\/em>or smoke enough weed to make Snoop Dogg jealous may not be endearing to a potential boyfriend or girlfriend. Maybe you only drink a glass of wine a day or smoke after a long day at the office, but listing \u201cdaily\u201d for these may make you sound as if you are a raging alcoholic or a drug dealer. Again, it\u2019s the wording and lack of options of the website that gets you here. Who knows, maybe some people won\u2019t mind it, but chances are that people looking at your profile may get the wrong impression from this and you may miss out on true love\u2026or true love may be passed out on a keg in the living room. To each his\/her own.<\/p>\n

4 Putting that you \u201cdefinitely\u201d want kids<\/strong>
\n\"\"The option of \u201csomeday\u201d is probably the right answer here, ladies. Putting \u201cdefinitely\u201d kinda makes it sound like you\u2019re baby crazy. Hey, I understand that you want to be as truthful and honest as you can in order to meet your perfect match, but when \u201cdefinitely wants children\u201d is in your by-line, it is gonna scare some men away\u2013especially when \u201csomeday\u201d is an option, rather than \u201cdefinitely.\u201d And a lot of women want kids, which is fine and perfectly natural. I\u2019m not saying that one should lie when making a profile, it just may be a better option to pick a word that doesn\u2019t seem to make having children seem so finite. A lot of people who would date you may want kids too, but it\u2019s probably a good idea to meet someone you love and think would make a good parent before making a decision like this.<\/p>\n

3 It says on your profile that you created your own religion<\/strong><\/p>\n

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\"\"\u201cI\u2019m a minister for my religious sect, \u2018The First Church of Mikhail Kalashnikov! My sermons are a mix of Christianity, Voodoo, Pokemon cards, black magic and firearms \u2014 lots of firearms.\u201d Sounds like a scary way to spend a Sunday morning. But who knows, maybe that guy has it right? Religion is simply a mixture of faith, love and compassion. However, if you are of an odd or (truly) unorthodox religious sect, people may be turned off by it. Not to say that they are right or correct in their religious viewpoints, but going to church or temple or a mosque is quite different than the gun and liquor hootenanny that the guy who created \u201cThe First Church of Mikhail Kalashnikov\u201d performs each Sunday morning for his \u201cfollowers.\u201d I\u2019m a firm believer in the 2nd Amendment, but a good portion of people would draw the line at going to a religious sermon with so many guns that you start having \u2018Nam flashbacks and you\u2019re only 23-years-old.<\/p>\n

2 I\u2019m 21 years old and I have 3 kids<\/strong>
\n\"\"Your decision making skills seem\u2026loose at best. While most men would enjoy that you don\u2019t always expect them to be wearing a condom when the date comes to an end and most women like a man that can take care of children\u2013having a lot of children at a fairly young age probably does not bode well for most people looking for love on Match.com. There are a litany of reasons for this: some folks may want kids but not starting immediately, obviously there is probably going to be at least one other man\/woman that will have an affect on your relationship (nobody wants to worry about crazy ex\u2019s who are baby daddies\/mommas), and if you are dating someone with kids, there is always going to be someone else around that is more important than you. I\u2019m not saying that it\u2019s a competition, but it can put a serious strain on a relationship because it\u2019s hard to get to really know someone when time has to be divided up between your mate and your kids. On one hand, having a lot of kids at a young age shows a person has to have certain type of maturity because they take care of children, but on the other hand, it shows a complete lack of maturity to get yourself into that situation in the first place.<\/p>\n

1 Listing watching porn as a hobby<\/strong>
\n\"\"It\u2019s probably happened before. Sure, the internet consists mostly of websites where people are getting intimate with men, women, animals, clowns, inanimate objects and a world of other things, but it\u2019s not something that you probably want to go around telling people. And the pron industry rakes in billions of dollars a year, so quite a few people are looking at it. But more times than not, that\u2019s not something you want to share on a dating site. Let me rephrase that: Unless you are a woman, this is probably something you save about yourself until after the honeymoon. To some people (ballpark\u2013almost every male alive) a woman that enjoys pornography is a plus. And if your hobby is making pornography, that is probably something you save sharing about yourself until the honeymoon. Surprise, honey! Let\u2019s make this a night that well remember for the rest of our lives and probably long after that.<\/p>\n

Bonus: Have a nice day!<\/h3>\n

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