{"id":3921,"date":"2011-05-06T23:59:03","date_gmt":"2011-05-07T06:59:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bspcn.com\/?p=3921"},"modified":"2011-05-07T02:07:44","modified_gmt":"2011-05-07T09:07:44","slug":"8-movies-my-past-girlfriends-forced-me-to-watch-that-made-me-who-i-am-today","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/localhost\/wordpress\/2011\/05\/06\/8-movies-my-past-girlfriends-forced-me-to-watch-that-made-me-who-i-am-today\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Movies My Past Girlfriends Forced Me to Watch That Made Me Who I Am Today"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by Matt Patches<\/a><\/p>\n

Solid relationships are built on compromise. Meaning, when your boyfriend or girlfriend tells you they want to go see Something Borrowed<\/em> or Thor<\/em> this weekend and your gut reaction is \u201cI\u2019d rather have an eagle bite out my liver every day for an eternity than see that movie,\u201d well, you have to suck it up. Not just because you\u2019re trying to keep the two of you together, but because the movie may actually turn out to be your cup of tea. Open minds, people.<\/p>\n

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I\u2019ve been the \u201cmovie buff\u201d in many a relationship, but this weekend\u2019s line-up reminded me of the many discoveries I\u2019ve made thanks to the differing opinions and interests of past significant others. For every sappy mother\/daughter road trip drama (Anywhere But Here<\/em>), fairy tale relationship come true (The Prince and Me<\/em>), or by-the-books rom-com with a song for a title (Sweet Home Alabama<\/em>), my girlfriends took me to a movie that \u2014 gasp \u2014 continues to resonate in my memory, challenge the way I watch films and remind me that I should get over myself once in awhile.<\/p>\n

Pretty impressive. I hope one of them felt that way when I sat them down to watch Jet Li\u2019s The One<\/em>.<\/p>\n

As a reminder to myself and to all that we don\u2019t ever really <\/em>know what we\u2019re going to enjoy the heck out of, here are eight movies I would probably never have seen on my own volition. And then I turn the table on you: what movie did someone twist your arm to see that actually turned out to be solid? I gratefully ask you to share your stories in the comments!<\/p>\n

My Neighbor Totoro<\/strong><\/em><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> My Neighbor Totoro<\/em> was a movie my high school girlfriend\u2019s dad recorded off TV on to a Hi-8 tape and required us to watch off a video camera. Starring what appeared to be one of those creepy, grinning stuffed animals that\u2019s always peering at you from the other side of a room, I imagined successfully sitting through Totoro<\/em> would earn me some sort of boyfriend medal of honor.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> Hayao Miyazaki\u2019s simplistic, charming animated film was my gateway drug to the world of Studio Ghibli, and even more importantly, the world of animation. My Neighbor Totoro<\/em> was fantastical art \u2014 even in crappy, lo-fi quality. There was a potential to this form of filmmaking I hadn\u2019t seen before, a magic that could only be captured through the colorful, whimsical eye of an animator. My girlfriend loved it because the Totoro song is the most adorable thing ever created by man<\/a>, but I was just happy to have alternatives to Disney flicks and Dragon Ball Z<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Down with Love<\/em><\/strong><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> A throwback to the crack-up sex comedies of the 1960s, chock full of retro styles and wink-wink gags delivered by one of the more irksome actresses of modern day: Ren\u00e9e Zellweger. It was like my girlfriend asking me to read back issues of Vogue while getting our nails did. Guess I didn\u2019t see the hilarious appeal of beehive hair-dos.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> As far as rom-coms go, Down with Love<\/em> doesn\u2019t just step outside the box, it breaks it down, tapes it back together and fancies it up with a stylistic gift wrap that is practically unheard of in Hollywood. How did this movie get made? Mystifying, but watching Zellweger, Ewan McGregor and director Peyton Reed embody the whirlwind of an old fashioned romance (not mock it) makes for a truly lovely time. Which is why the movie made $0.<\/p>\n

The Lion in Winter<\/strong><\/em><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> The Lion in Winter<\/em> stars the legendary Peter O\u2019Toole and Katharine Hepburn and won several Oscars when it was released in 1968 \u2014 but there are few things less appealing on a Friday night than a heavy drama set in medieval France. Medical studies have proved that cinematic play adaptations concerning European history are the second most effective sleep drug under Ambien.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> What a fool I am, especially as a person who can enjoy a riveting piece of theater, to brush off The Lion in Winter<\/em>. Every line in this frickin\u2019 movie is delivered with unrivaled ferocity, like Shakespeare interpreted by David Mamet. We talk about the fine, but definitive line between theater and film, but a movie like The Lion in Winter<\/em> convinces you that there\u2019s room for a hybrid. We can have unrealistic, poetical dialogue in movies. Take a Hepburn classic: \u201cI could peel you like a pear and God himself would call it justice! \u201d<\/p>\n

Me and You and Everyone We Know<\/strong><\/em><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> QuirkFest 2005, courtesy of performance artist\/writer\/mind-controller over the literary-inclined, Miranda July. July\u2019s Me and You and Everyone We Know<\/em> appeared to be another Wes Anderson-inspired, surface-level indie combined with the unstoppable power of adorable children who say intellectual things. I was very worried for the girlfriend that enjoyed this movie.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> July\u2019s latest film The Future<\/em> solidifies this for me, but even in Me and You and Everyone We Know<\/em> you begin to realize that she\u2019s something of a 21st century, female Woody Allen. The movie isn\u2019t quirky for quirk\u2019s sake, July\u2019s just the real deal. I could see why a person who authentically enjoys art and the creative process would be enthralled by July\u2019s work \u2014 it\u2019s a completely unfiltered vision, an extension of herself, much like Allen\u2019s films. Not necessarily appealing all the time, but genuine.<\/p>\n

Amelie<\/strong><\/em><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> Ah, the days when I\u2019d head to Blockbuster and watch my girlfriend pick whatever movie had compelling box art. As a young person, I never had a fear of foreign films the way some of my compatriots did (er, still do, I would imagine), but let\u2019s be honest: I had some other priorities while watching movies. Subtitles required my undivided attention and I had serious concerns that this random, schmaltzy French flick would be too\u2026distracting.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> Always cross reference the names on the box with your memory bank. Obviously I was too caught up in my own obnoxious behavior to connect director Jean-Pierre Jeunet to films I had seen and loved, like Delicatessen<\/em> and The City of Lost Children<\/em> (note: films my girlfriend at the time loathed<\/em>). Amelie<\/em> was something even more special than his earlier work, the perfect gel of his style and romanticism. As Amelie and Nino zipped through the streets on their bicycle and the credits rolled, I recalled saying, \u201cwhy aren\u2019t American films more like that?\u201d To which my girlfriend replied, \u201cDid you like it?\u201d<\/p>\n

Save the Last Dance<\/strong><\/em><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> Julia Stiles is the queen of movies that girlfriends demand to see in theaters, much to their boyfriends\u2019 dismay. She starred in so many \u201chow can X guy win over Julia Stiles this time?\u201d movies, that I had a strong resistance to seeing The Bourne Identity<\/em> in theaters. Sad. Save the Last Dance<\/em> fit that model, mixed with\u2026dancing. Ew, gross.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> Few movies take teenagers as seriously as Save the Last Dance<\/em>. Yes, the whole interracial dance thing is a little trite, but the movie\u2019s about the power of ambition and friendship, letting down one\u2019s guard to find comfort in others. That\u2019s important stuff for the core demographic ofSave the Last Dance<\/em> and it doesn\u2019t hurt that the hip hop music and dancing is equally as powerful as Stiles and Sean Patrick Thomas (what happened to that guy?). Whatever Step Up<\/em> franchise, the real deal is Save the Last Dance<\/em>.<\/p>\n

John Q<\/strong><\/em><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> I vividly recall trying to decide between staying in one night and playing Rummikub or going to see Denzel Washington in John Q<\/em>. I lost that argument. I don\u2019t even know if my girlfriend at the time wanted<\/em> to see John Q<\/em>, as it looked like one of the most sentimental turds in all of movie history. She just really didn\u2019t want to play Rummikub with me.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> Well, I wasn\u2019t wrong. I haven\u2019t returned to John Q<\/em> since that fateful day, but I think about it constantly. It may have been the first movie I flat out hated \u2014 HATED! \u2014 which makes it that much more important. Everything in John Q<\/em> stunk to high heaven, and even with \u201cworse\u201d movies in existence, watching the film was a moment of clarity, in which I could perfectly describe why<\/em> the film was a piece of poop. Everything is flawed and it\u2019s the perfect film to analyze why this happens to a project that is, obviously, someone\u2019s<\/em> labor of love (in this case, Nick Cassavetes).<\/p>\n

Before Sunset<\/strong><\/em><\/h5>\n

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The Pre-Judgment:<\/strong> Watching two people fall in love on screen can be a great experience for couples. Watching people talk about how they were never able to make it work and have lots of regrets and wish they could be together even though it\u2019s impossible\u2026probably not as great an experience. Those are the kind of seeds you don\u2019t want to plant two months into your new relationship<\/em>.<\/p>\n

The Judgment:<\/strong> Off the tip of my tongue, I\u2019d say Before Sunset<\/em> is the most romantic movie I\u2019ve ever seen. Yes, it\u2019s also the sequel to Before Sunrise<\/em>, the \u201cone night fling\u201d movie that could also take the title, but watching two former lovers, further down the road of their lives, talking about how things have changed and mistakes they\u2019ve made\u2026that brings you little closer to the things you do have. Okay, girlfriend, you won that round. I\u2019ll pay you back by taking you to Blade: Trinity<\/em>!<\/p>\n

How many movies have you been forced into that changed your life?<\/em><\/p>\n

Bonus: Presidents come and go, but the Queen sticks around<\/h3>\n

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