{"id":4526,"date":"2011-10-31T02:32:06","date_gmt":"2011-10-31T09:32:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bspcn.com\/?p=4526"},"modified":"2011-11-01T02:33:44","modified_gmt":"2011-11-01T09:33:44","slug":"one-minute-you%e2%80%99re-relaxing-on-holiday%e2%80%a6","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/localhost\/wordpress\/2011\/10\/31\/one-minute-you%e2%80%99re-relaxing-on-holiday%e2%80%a6\/","title":{"rendered":"One minute, you\u2019re relaxing on holiday\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by butireaditinthepaper<\/a><\/p>\n

The next, someone contacts you to tell you that you\u2019re in the Daily Mail and you soon realise that whilst you were out of the country someone had grabbed your life, twisted out of all recognition and published it to the world.<\/p>\n

Welcome to the story of Hayley Quinn who this happened to in October.<\/p>\n

Hayley Quinn describes herself as a \u2018dating coach and writer\u2019 and a \u2018specialist in the arts of conversation, persuasion and seduction\u2019. The Daily Mail described her as: \u2018the matchmaking expert who cannot hold down a boyfriend\u2019. Just one slight problem with that description: Hayley was at the time of publication on holiday with her boyfriend of 10 months. Hayley has been kind enough to go through the entire Daily Mail article and point out just what parts of it were inaccurate or simply an invention of the writer \u2013 the byline belongs to one Lauren Paxman, you are all welcome to join me in a slow handclap for her once you get to the end of this blog post.<\/p>\n

All the parts highlighted in bold are my emphasis and are tackled by Hayley below the chunks of the Mail article. Bear in mind that Hayley never gave any form of interview to the Daily Mail so the constant \u2018she said\u2019 stuff the article uses are either made up or taken from a Now magazine article which you can read in full here \u2013 links given at the bottom of the article. If you read the Now magazine article \u2013 which must presumably be the source of the Daily Mail article \u2013 you can see just how much invention, exaggeration and distortion is used by the Daily Mail to \u2018sex-up\u2019 the article and to create a completely different Hayley Quinn than you meet in the Now magazine article.<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s an age old problem that even formed the basis of Jane Austen\u2019s novel, Emma, the better you are at advising others on dating, the harder it often is to find yourself a partner.<\/p>\n

But Hayley Quinn, who has helped teach 100,000<\/strong> men how to seduce women cannot find a boyfriend for a reason that would have scandalised high society Georgians: she is addicted to casual flings<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

The 100,000 figure is inaccurate: more like 10,000. Internet forums have thought that I purposely exaggerated this figure: in fact the paper just made it up.<\/p>\n

As for the \u2018addicted to casual flings\u2019 accusation: I\u2019m not a saint but I am not a sex addict \u2013 and ironically this article came out when I was on holiday with my boyfriend of 10 months in Malta.<\/p>\n

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The frustrated 24-year-old earns \u00a340,000-per-year<\/strong> as a professional dating expert who teaches shy guys to bag the woman of their dreams.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Made up figure: I also didn\u2019t want any salary released to the public as I didn\u2019t want to appear to be in a better\/ worse position than my competitors.<\/p>\n

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But despite going on more than 200 dates<\/strong> in the past year herself \u2013 often as many as seven in seven days \u2013 she cannot hold onto a man.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Made up. I have maybe been on 30 but I\u2019ve been monogamous with my boyfriend for some time.<\/p>\n

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Hayley says she has become so good at seducing men she is \u2018addicted\u2019 to it and finds it impossible to settle down.<\/p>\n

The pretty brunette, who lives in central London, describes herself as \u2018a more extreme Carrie Bradshaw character from Sex and the City\u2019.<\/p>\n

She said: \u2018My bigger problem is that there\u2019s one client I just can\u2019t crack \u2013 me<\/strong>\u2018.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

A fantastic piece of creative writing.<\/p>\n

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\u2018Despite what my job may imply of me, I\u2019m a hopeless romantic at heart, and can\u2019t seem to find the right guy for me\u2019.<\/p>\n

\u2018I would love to be whisked off my feet and proposed to but, despite falling head over heels numerous times \u2013 often with clients<\/strong> \u2013 it just hasn\u2019t happened\u2019.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

This implies that I\u2019ve had romantic affairs with my clients, this is untrue and detrimental to my business.<\/p>\n

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\u2018I can\u2019t follow my own advice and seem to be able to find love for anyone and everyone but me.<\/p>\n

\u2018I\u2019ve kept a diary of all my dates, work<\/strong> and personal, so I can keep track, and call it my \u2018Sexcapades<\/strong>\u2018.\u2019<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

This implies I go on dates for work = escorting. Nope I teach other guys how to date women in a theoretical, seminar based fashion.<\/p>\n

I haven\u2019t named it this [‘sexcapades’] (in fact working title is \u2018first date to wedding bells\u2019 as the diaries mainly describe the progression of my relationship with my boyfriend. I may have used the word \u2018sexcapades\u2019 historically but this is anachronistic.<\/p>\n

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She added: \u2018The problem is I\u2019ve become so good at the dating game that I\u2019m addicted to it.<\/p>\n

\u2018Now, if I spot someone I find attractive I challenge myself to seduce him into bed. And I never lose.<\/p>\n

\u2018I simply can\u2019t get enough of the thrill of the chase. I\u2019m addicted to dating and each fling only fuels my appetite for the next.<\/p>\n

\u2018It\u2019s meant that, for now, I\u2019ve had to postpone all thoughts of my dream wedding to Mr Right.\u2019<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve ever challenged myself to seduce someone into bed. I traditionally have dated mostly women and have only ever slept with 6 men\u2026 which is hardly a record breaking amount. Two of those were \u2018flings\u2019 four \u2018long term relationships\u2019\u2026 not salacious stuff. The truth is my luck with guys is a bit rubbish \u2013 or it has been \u2013 but not because I have an addiction.<\/p>\n

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\u2018The irony isn\u2019t lost on me \u2013 I train men how to be successful with women, but can\u2019t find the right guy myself!\u2019<\/p>\n

Hayley, who grew up in Devon<\/strong>, became a serial dater after the DJ boyfriend she moved to London with aged 18 cheated on her with two women \u2013 at the same time.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Cornwall actually.<\/p>\n

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She said: \u2018I was very much a one man woman and wanted nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with him.<\/p>\n

\u2018So when I discovered he had cheated on me with not one, but two women while on holiday in Las Vegas, the revelation shook my outlook on life and love to the core.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

John B (my ex) is a great friend of mine and I would never have wanted something so scathing printed about him.<\/p>\n

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\u2018I felt like I was out of my depth and I hated the way he\u2019d made me feel so helpless and unable to influence my own happiness.<\/p>\n

\u2018My life had been turned upside down by the man who told me he loved me and had then had a threesome behind my back, and so in a bid to take back control I went on a dating spree.\u2019<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

This happened when I was 18, we were then together in a monogamous relationship until I was 23, then I began to date again after we\u2019d broken up. His behaviour did not trigger a \u2018dating spree\u2019.<\/p>\n

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Hayley has also been given regular dating columns in men\u2019s magazines and on dating sites, reaching out to more than 100,000 men<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Earning a healthy \u00a340,000<\/strong> salary from all of her dating exploits, she has turned her passion into a career.<\/p>\n

She said: \u2018I\u2019ve been so successful I frequently receive messages of thanks andgifts<\/strong> from men I\u2019ve helped find romance.<\/p>\n

\u2018Many of the guys who come to me are just happy they get to sleep with someone<\/strong>!\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018But as for me, I\u2019m still single<\/strong> I\u2019m continuing my search for Mr Right.\u2019<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Repetition of inaccurate figures.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve received one book from a client- no other presents. This again feels \u2018escort-y\u2019.<\/p>\n

This REALLY implies that there\u2019s more to what I teach than conversation skills.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not single anymore.<\/p>\n

Bonus: LOL<\/strong><\/p>\n

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